You may be thinking, “what the heck does beginner’s mind have to do with dating with success?” and rightly so, as the term “beginner’s mind” mainly has its roots in zen buddhism and the material arts.
But when you stop to think about it, “beginner’s mind” makes a lot of sense and can be seen as a crucial element to dating with success.
And let me elaborate a bit on what I mean by that.
If you look up “beginner’s mind” in the dictionary it refers to having an attitude of openness, eagerness and lack of preconceptions.
I don’t know about you but I personally much prefer to be meet with an open mind rather than the suffocating feeling that I have to live up to someone’s expectations of how that person wants me to be.
First dates can be loaded with (unrealistic) expectations like that.
Haven’t you ever experienced what it feels like when someone doesn’t see YOU because that person is so preoccupied with their own expectation of how they want you to be? and wouldn’t you so much prefer to be meet with an open mind ?
Being in a “beginner’s state of mind” when you are dating will help you experience the success that you are looking for. And this is worth keeping in mind whether you are on a business date, or a romantic date.
When it comes to dating nothing was ever gained by forcing our own expectations about how we want other people to be upon them.
We all want to feel free to be who we are without the additional pressure of other peoples expectations.
Read Step NO 8 and get more tips on how to date with success.